What do the results of questionnaires and polls administered to teens over the past 50 years reveal regarding what they most want from adults? You might be surprised to learn that what they most desire is simply to have a caring adult… listen. Yes, believe it or not, they crave to have an audience with us.
Here, in a ‘Five-minute Mindset Shift’ from A Year Without Fear, Tama Kieves eloquently explains the magnificent power of this simple act: “There is something you can do today that will change someone’s life immediately. You can listen to them. You can listen to how they see the world. You can listen without trying to change a thing. Listen to yourself, too. Offer reverence instead of suggestions. Listening is a deity that sits beside us with heat, belief, and grace. Listening changes everything.”
Purposeful Parents and Teachers know that ‘listening with heart’ is an essential tool for promoting healthy growth in individuals and a community. Let’s each make time to listen to a young person today.
Yours in Positivity,
About the author
Kate Martin has been a high school teacher for 27 years and retired from the Racine Unified School District in 2015. She taught students with special needs as well as those in general education. While working with hundreds of parents over the years, she discovered that there was a significant lack of resources and educational opportunities to help them navigate the many demands of parenting today. For this reason, in 2013 she founded The Purposeful Parent, offering workshops and resources for parents, teachers, and caregivers.
In 2016 Kate published a book intended to help reduce ‘pre-sleep’ anxiety experienced by many of her students. The book: “The Best Thoughts to Think— Five Minutes Before” has quickly become a beloved bedside sleep guide for people of all ages. The book offers six simple techniques to help dismiss negative thoughts and replace them with positive thinking.
Today, Kate is busy giving presentations to schools, businesses, community groups, and all who are eager to learn how to help people and groups tap into their full capacity by learning to trust their brilliance more than their doubts.